How we communicate with our kids, with the people around us and with ourselves will affect our results in life and our success. We cannot expect to live a truly happy and rewarding life if we communicate in an aggressive or negative manner.
The way in which we communicate affects every single thing we do in life and every person we interact with.
It’s funny how often I hear people tell me how aggressive or angry other people are when they too are angry or aggressive or how negative everyone is when they too are negative. If we want to have less anger, less aggression, less negativity in our life then we must first make the change within ourselves. We must make sure that what we are saying about other people is positive and not degrading.
With the new Workplace Bullying Laws coming into affect on January 1 2014 for the Australian workforce people who have previously taken out their aggression and anger on their employees or collegues may find themselves at the Fair Work Commission more often than they would like to. For the first time in history, how people communicate at work is going to come under very tight scrutiny by a third party and fortunately those poor taste jokes, accusatory emails and constant yelling may no longer be classified as fair and reasonable within the workplace. How we behave in the workplace also overflows into how we communicate with our kids and around our kids.
If we wish to teach our kids more effective ways to communicate then we must start with ourselves and let everyone know that we will not tolerate bullying, intimidation, discrimination or harassment. We must teach our kids to respect all people including themselves.
When a child hears you saying negative things about others or yourself they learn that this behaviour is acceptable and they take on these practices for themself. As you know one’s internal language can do more damage than anything else. If you want your kids to use their power of communication more effectively then you first need to teach them how to respect themselves and all people.
We cannot blame our kids for saying negative things about themselves if we say similiar about ourselves. We cannot blame our kids for disrespecting people if we also disrespect others. And we certainly cannot blame our kids for bullying others if we use similiar tactics such as bitching, harassment and intimidation.
Our kids learn from what we say and what we do and if we want our kids to love themselves, respect themselves and use their internal powers of communication to improve their life not make it worse then we must change our attitudes and our behaviour first.
As they say, “Monkey see Monkey do.”
Hold yourself accountable on how you communicate with others so that your kids learn a better and more effective way to communicate with all people and in particular themselves.
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